"Compelling, warm, practical and utterly inspirational." -- Jeff Lucas "Too often faith becomes the boxing glove we use to beat ourselves up. For those who feel battered, defeated, overwhelmed and diminished this book offers a much needed hand up." -- Dr Russell Rook "Nice one Tarn. Your honesty and humility are compelling and personally challenging." -- Rev Carl Beech "Tania is a courageous and transparent warrior of hope-filled truth who, in these pages, takes us past polite conversation into the kind of honest discussion about tough issues that most of us long to have, but few of us actually experience. Every chapter reads like a coffee-fuelled chat with a fantastic friend." -- Cathy Madavan "Anyone who can get the word `codswallop' naturally into a book, and recommends that `it is better to eat a Mars Bar with good friends, than to eat broccoli alone' gets my vote!" -- Bex Lewis "Full of grace and truth, this book will take you to the heart of God." -- Rob Peabody "Tania's concept of Kindsight will help you to see your past through the lens of the grace of God. She offers us a great gift." -- Dr Krish Kandiah "Wow, a book that tells it as it is. If you hunger for reality and honesty, if you value relationships and life as much as I do, you will love this." -- Vicky Taylor "Inspirational and completely unforgettable - I couldn't put it down." -- Rachel Gardener "Tania holds the heavy extremes of great strength and great vulnerability without fumbling over or dropping either. Her honesty and hard-won wisdom are life and joy-giving. Long may she bless us by sharing them!" -- Abby Guinness, Event Director, Spring Harvest Anyone who knows Tarn will recognise her style instantly. She writes as she speaks, and her strong and deliberate addressing of taboo subjects so personally will set the reader free of their religious spirit and/or their own personal struggles in these areas. Tarn has such freedom in her own heart and it flows, nay, floods out of the book. It's time such a book was written by someone with the respect and value she has in the Christian world. Leave it to Tarn to not just break through the barriers, but blow'm sky high. Her coining of the word `kindsight' is nothing short of beautiful and the determination with which she practices what she preaches is a testimony to the power of the God she serves. Her love for people, friends, total strangers, and her two beautiful boys gives courage to those of us who look on as she journeys through life. If I could describe this book as just one thing, it would be HONEST. It is radically, freeingly, empoweringly, encouragingly, over the top honest and no reader can sit with it without being changed for the good, without wanting to know God more courageously and more deeply. This is a woman who knows the heart of God in a most beautiful way. I'm going to buy a dozen copies and give them away ... captives can turn into mighty warriors; Tarn is living proof. -- Bev Murrill, Director, Christian Growth International "Well done for picking up this volume! This is an intensely practical, down-to-earth, life-researched book, which has been forged in some of the deepest and darkest experiences of life; Tania has been through them all and her dogged faith in the Lord Jesus to not only bring her through, but also to make something profoundly precious out of them, is the basis of the wisdom you will unearth as you read these chapters. I have had the privilege of seeing how Tania has tackled some of the things life has thrown at her and I have grown in profound admiration for her; she is a shining star and proof that what she writes about works. As you read this book you too will learn how to be kind to yourself as you work with the Holy Spirit to bring healing, wholeness and strength to your life." -- Anne Coles, New Wine